Written by Kat
There are different kinds of people who show up after a tragic event:
There are the people who genuinely want to help and support you. These are my favorite people whom I am so thankful for.
There are the ones who show up to support you in the very beginning, but life gets in the way. These people don't bother me, it's no fault of their own.
And then there are those who say they care and want to be there for the two of you but never lift a finger, don't check up on you, and only "support" you when it benefits them in some way.
I have to say that the third type is my least favorite. We've experienced people who are less than kind, (sometimes downright hateful) with no thought to all that we've been through.
One thing I have learned is not to let those people upset your apple cart. You will be left tracking down all your apples again, while they are getting on with their own life. Trust me, it is a lot easier to fight to keep your cart upright than to seek out every apple you lost.
If you've already let a person upset your apple cart, it's imperative that you don't allow them to again, because your apple cart will become a frequent target for that individual.
In all of this, it's important to remember that God gives you the power of grace. Instead of fighting with someone who jostles your apples, you have the ability to be gracious and let them continue walking, with no reaction from you.
Be gracious. Be strong. Keep your apples together.